The Touchy Business of Touch

Last week a friend gave me a great big hug for Christmas. I hugged her back. This week a friend of a friend passed on her friend’s instructions to give me a hug. I sent a hug back to her. I really appreciated and enjoyed both hugs. Separately, at a group’s Christmas function, contact varied from nothing, to a handshake to a peck on the cheek. So, after two years of #MeToo, how do we stand on touching between sexes?Read More »

TOUCH: WE NEED MORE, NOT LESS

As the domestic violence and sexual assault royal commissions roll on in Australia, revealing the extraordinary amount of inappropriate contact between people, and in the light of the Oxford University research showing us who can touch whom where (‘Maps show where touching is allowed’), the truth is: most of us want and need more touching, not less.

Personally, I’ve always struggled with the ‘right’ amount of touching, particularly for women or girls. The desire to show friendliness, affection, to commiserate, to share joy are all good reasons for touching another person.  But where to touch, how much to touch, for how long and how will it be construed by the recipient? Read More »