I can’t believe I’m writing this…but, unfortunately, what Trump says about ‘locker room culture’ is closer to the truth than many of us men would like to think. I’ve read strenuous denials from locker room superstars about Trump’s comments, but I’m afraid they are no more truthful than most of Trump’s rants. I’ve never been comfortable in locker rooms with alpha males, but I have to admit that even I do look at women and wonder what would it be like to be with them. Men do think and form a personal ‘f…ble’ or ‘not f..ble’ view. We do ogle women and we do wish. We do share that information. Particularly in all-male environments, wherever they are. Those rating systems that young men have at schools do state explicitly what we do think secretly in some part of our minds, whether at the surface or deeply hidden. Read More »
The words used in a conversation, a story, an article, a TV news item carry important perceptions ad our views are heavily influenced by the actual words used to describe males and females just as a start. We need to watch our language.Read More »
Recently I went on a travelling and walking trip in the country with 4 very close women friends for 6 days. We all got on very well and it was a great trip. However, I realised after a couple of days how unusual it was for me to be the only one of my gender in a group. What I noticed was how well they got on together in conversation without me being involved, even though they were from three different countries and were not friends themselves (they were all my friends).
I was brought up in an era that strongly supported, encouraged and promoted equality, particularly gender equality. But, I’ve been wondering for some time now how I would feel if I was a woman in the current world.